Who's paying for the wedding?

The days when the bride's family paid for everything are long gone. Most couples save up themselves, and parents may help if they can and want to. Some families split the cost evenly between the couple, the bride's parents and the groom's parents. Others have one side covering the whole thing, and some couples pay for everything and ask parents to contribute only if they offer. The key is to avoid guessing. Sit down with your partner and work out what you can afford first. Then, if you want help, ask your families directly and kindly. You might say something like, 'We are planning our wedding and would love your support if you are able, but there is no pressure.' If someone offers money, ask if they want to give a set amount or pay for a specific item. That avoids confusion later. Remember that contributions can be non-financial too: a parent might cook, drive, host a pre-wedding meal or help with DIY. Whatever you decide, put it in writing informally so everyone remembers the same thing. And if no one can pay, that is fine. A smaller wedding with the people you love is still a real wedding.