What is proper etiquette for the groom's parents to pay for?

Traditional UK etiquette once said the bride's family paid for most of the wedding, and the groom's parents paid for the rehearsal dinner, the honeymoon, and sometimes the drinks at the reception. But that is no longer the standard. Today, most couples pay for their own wedding, and both sets of parents may help if they can and want to. The kindest approach is to treat both families equally and ask them what they feel comfortable contributing. Some parents prefer to pay for a specific item, like the flowers, the cake, the band, or the transport. Others would rather give a lump sum and let you decide. There is no legal or formal requirement for the groom's parents to pay for anything. If they offer, thank them warmly and agree together on what the money will cover. If they cannot or do not offer, that is fine too. The important thing is to avoid assumptions and to have an open, gentle conversation early on. Remember that weddings in the UK can be held at register offices, approved venues, or religious buildings, and costs vary hugely. The etiquette is not about who pays for what, but about clear communication and gratitude. So sit down with both families, share your budget, and ask for help in a way that respects everyone's circumstances.