How do you split wedding costs fairly between both families?

Splitting wedding costs fairly between both families is less about exact numbers and more about respect. Start by listing all the main costs, such as the venue, catering, drinks, flowers, photography, music, and outfits. Then decide together which items each family would like to take on. Some families prefer to pay for the same amount, others prefer to pay for different things. For example, one family might cover the venue, and the other might cover the catering. That can feel fair even if the amounts differ. Another option is for both families to contribute a set amount into a joint pot, and you manage the budget from there. The key is to have the conversation early, before any bookings are made. Be honest about your own budget first, so parents know what you need. Do not assume that one side should pay more because of tradition or income. Instead, ask each family what they feel able to offer. If one family can give more, that is fine, as long as everyone is comfortable. Also remember that you and your partner are the ones getting married, so you should have the final say on how the money is spent. In the UK, the legal side of the wedding, like giving notice and having witnesses, is the same no matter who pays. So keep the focus on a happy day, not on keeping score.