How do I plan a gay wedding?

Start by deciding where you want to marry, because the legal steps differ across the UK. In England and Wales, both of you give notice at your local register office at least 28 days before the ceremony, and the wedding must happen within 12 months. In Scotland, submit a marriage notice at least 29 days ahead, and in Northern Ireland give notice 28 days before. Your ceremony can be civil or religious, but each religious organisation decides whether it holds same-sex weddings, so check directly with your place of worship if that matters to you.

Then plan the celebration just like any couple would. Choose your venue, set a budget, pick your guest list and think about the order of the day. If you want a religious ceremony that is not legally binding on its own, such as a blessing or a nikah in an unregistered building, you may need a short civil ceremony as well to make the marriage legal. Check GOV.UK for the current rules in your nation.

Remember, you do not have to change your name after marrying. If you do, your marriage certificate is the usual proof for passports, banks and employers. Involve your families and friends in whatever way feels right for you, and make the day reflect your relationship, not anyone else's expectations.