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What is wedding etiquette for food and drink?

Answered by the UK Wedding Websites editorial team · Updated 2026-10-12 · For guests

Short answer

Serve drinks on arrival, then a meal within about two hours of guests arriving. Provide non-alcoholic options, water on every table, and food for evening guests. Make sure dietary needs are met, and let guests know the menu in advance if they have allergies. Toasts are usually made after the meal.

Good food and drink etiquette keeps guests comfortable and well cared for. Offer a drink as guests arrive, whether that is a glass of fizz, a beer or a soft drink, and always have water available. If you have a gap between the ceremony and the meal, provide at least a drink and a light snack, as hungry guests get restless. Aim to serve the main meal within about two hours of guests arriving, so nobody is waiting too long. Collect dietary requirements with your invitations, and make sure every guest has something they can eat. Label dishes clearly at a buffet, especially for common allergens like nuts, gluten and dairy. For the toast, it is traditional to have a drink in hand, often sparkling wine or a non-alcoholic alternative, and to make the toast after the meal rather than before. Provide plenty of non-alcoholic drinks throughout the day, such as juice, cordial and soft drinks, not just at the toast. If you have evening guests joining later, have food available for them too, such as a buffet or a snack van. Finally, make sure your bar has a clear plan, whether that is a free bar, a cash bar or a set amount of drinks per guest, and tell guests in advance so there are no surprises.

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