Should you do the bouquet toss and garter toss?

The bouquet toss and garter toss are old customs, but they are not required. The bouquet toss started as a way for guests to share in the bride's luck, and the garter toss has roots in even older, more intrusive traditions. For many modern couples, these moments feel outdated or embarrassing. You might prefer to skip them entirely, or you could adapt them. For example, you could toss a soft toy or a dried flower arrangement instead of the real bouquet, and you could invite all single guests, not just women, to catch it. The garter toss is often the most divisive. Some couples find it playful, but many guests find it uncomfortable. If you do include it, keep it brief, light-hearted and fully consensual. You could also replace both with a simple thank-you to your guests, a group photo, or a moment to dance with your closest friends. There is no legal or religious rule about either tradition. The only rule is that everyone, including you, feels comfortable and happy. Talk to your partner and your wedding party, and decide together. Your day, your choice.