How do Muslims get married if they can't date?

In Islam, marriage is a sacred contract rather than a romance that begins with dating. The process starts when the couple, often introduced through family or a trusted community member, agree to marry. The bride must give clear consent, and her wali, usually her father or another male guardian, gives approval. This is not about control but about family support and blessing.

The ceremony is called a Nikah. It takes place in a mosque, community hall or another suitable venue. An imam or authorised person leads it. The couple recite vows, and the groom gives the bride a mahr, a gift of money or valuables that is hers alone. Two adult Muslim witnesses must be present. The marriage is recorded in a nikahnama, the marriage certificate.

For the marriage to be legally recognised in England and Wales, the building must be registered for marriages and an authorised person must be present. Many couples hold a short civil ceremony at a register office first, or alongside the Nikah, to make sure the marriage is legal. Rules can vary by community and location, so check with your local register office and your place of worship.

• Ask your mosque or imam about their requirements early.
• Confirm whether the venue is registered for legal marriages.
• Plan the civil ceremony if you want full legal protection.