What is the bedeken ceremony and what happens during it?

Short answer

The bedeken is a pre-wedding ritual where the groom covers the bride's face, often followed by a blessing. It symbolises modesty and devotion before the ceremony.

The bedeken, sometimes called the veiling, takes place before the wedding ceremony. It is a quiet moment, often held in a separate room or tent while guests gather. The groom approaches the bride and places a veil over her face, or covers her head, depending on family custom.

This act recalls the story of Rebecca in the Bible. It reminds both partners to look beyond outward appearance and value inner character. Many couples find it a calm pause before the excitement of the ceremony. Some families include a short blessing over the bride, and some add a reading or a moment of prayer.

It is common for the bedeken to happen in the morning, especially on a Saturday before a Sabbath wedding. Families may photograph this moment, and close relatives often join the couple. If you are unsure about your family's specific tradition, ask your parents or rabbi. Customs can differ between communities, and the timing may vary.

If you are planning a legal wedding in England and Wales, remember that a religious ceremony alone may not be legally binding unless it takes place in a registered building with an authorised person. You may wish to arrange a civil ceremony separately. Check GOV.UK or speak to your register office for the current rules.