Who pays for the wedding if the couple is having a small intimate wedding?

A small wedding, say with just close family and a few friends, often costs far less than a big celebration. That makes it very feasible for the couple to cover the whole thing. Many couples prefer this because it keeps the day simple and personal, with no need to balance family expectations or negotiate contributions.

If you are paying yourselves, you can choose a venue that suits your numbers, like a register office, a small approved venue, or even an outdoor spot in Scotland. You can keep the guest list to people you truly want there. You might still want help with specific things, like a parent making the cake or a friend doing the flowers. That is fine, but it is a gift, not a payment.

If someone offers to contribute, you can accept or politely decline. Some families feel left out if they cannot help, so you could suggest they host a small meal the night before, or pay for your wedding breakfast. That way they feel involved without taking over. The important thing is that a small wedding is not a lesser wedding. It is a choice, and it means you can focus on the ceremony, the words and the people who matter most.