Who pays for the wedding if the couple is having a large wedding with many guests?

For a large wedding, the cost can be significant, so it is wise to start with an honest conversation about what you can afford. Tradition used to say the bride's family paid, but that is no longer the norm in the UK. Today, couples often pay for the bulk themselves, with parents or other relatives helping if they offer and can afford it. Some families split costs by category, for example one side covers the venue and catering while the other covers drinks and flowers. Others simply pool money into one pot and plan from there.

If you are having many guests, think about what matters most to you both, such as the venue, the meal or the music, and put your money there. Ask anyone who offers to contribute what they would like to cover, and be specific about what that includes. Write down who is paying for what so there are no surprises later. Remember that guests do not pay to attend, though they may give gifts if they wish. If you are having a religious ceremony, the legal requirements are the same whatever the size, and you should check with your register office or place of worship about any fees or rules. The key is to plan together, stay within your means and thank anyone who helps generously.