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Who pays for the hen do and stag do in the UK?

Answered by the UK Wedding Websites editorial team · Updated 2026-10-12 · For the bridal party · For guests

Short answer

In the UK, the guests who attend the hen do or stag do typically pay for their own share, and the bridal party or friends organising it often cover the guest of honour's costs. There is no fixed rule, so agree openly as a group.

Traditionally, the people who go on the hen do or stag do split the cost of the organiser's expenses, such as accommodation, meals and activities, among themselves. The guest of honour usually does not pay for their own place. That said, every group is different, and budgets vary widely. The most important thing is to talk early and honestly. The organiser should ask everyone what they can afford before booking anything, and should never assume a set amount. Some groups prefer to pay for everything themselves and keep it simple. Others chip in for the guest of honour's ticket but ask them to cover their own drinks. If the event includes travel or a night away, agree in advance who pays for what, and put it in writing if it helps. Remember that not everyone can afford the same amount, so plan something that works for the whole group. It is also kind to check whether anyone feels left out because of cost. The same applies to the stag do. There is no legal or official rule, so the fairest approach is a group conversation before any deposits are paid.

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