How do I tell family and friends that we are having a micro wedding?

Start with the people closest to you, ideally in person or by phone, before you share anything publicly. Be honest and warm. Say something like, 'We've decided to have a very small wedding, just the two of us and maybe a couple of witnesses. We want to keep the day calm and meaningful, and we hope you'll celebrate with us afterwards.' Give them space to feel disappointed, because that's natural. Avoid apologising for your choice, but acknowledge their feelings. You might say, 'We know this isn't what you imagined, and we're sorry if it's upsetting. We love you and we want you to be part of our lives.' Then offer a concrete alternative: a dinner, a picnic, a drinks party, or a weekend gathering where you can celebrate together. If you're having a micro wedding with a few guests, explain why you've limited numbers, perhaps because of budget, venue size, or your own comfort. Be clear that it's not about favouritism. You can also share your plans on a wedding website or a group message once you've told key people individually. If someone is very hurt, give them time and keep the door open. Remember, your wedding is about your marriage, not just one day. You can create many moments of connection with family and friends around it.