How do you announce an engagement?

Short answer

Announce your engagement by telling your closest family and friends in person or by phone first, then share the news more widely with a card, email or social media post.

Start with the people who matter most. Tell your parents, siblings and close friends before anyone else. Do this in person if you can, or by video call if they live far away. This gives them a moment of joy and avoids them finding out second-hand. If you have children, tell them early and involve them in the announcement if they are old enough.

Once your inner circle knows, you can spread the news. A printed announcement card sent by post is traditional and lovely for older relatives. For friends and colleagues, a simple email or group message works well. You do not need to announce on social media at all, but if you do, wait until you have told everyone important in person. Include the date of the wedding if you have set it, or simply say you are engaged. You can mention that you are looking forward to celebrating with everyone in due course. Keep the wording warm and personal. There is no need to include details of the proposal unless you want to. Finally, remember that some people may be surprised or emotional, so give them time to respond with kindness.