What is the etiquette for a destination wedding as a guest?

Short answer

As a guest at a destination wedding, you should RSVP promptly, book your travel and accommodation early, and follow the couple's dress code and schedule. Gifts are usually smaller or sent to the couple's home, not carried with you.

Destination wedding etiquette is about being considerate and flexible. The couple has chosen a location that means extra time, money and travel for everyone, so your main job is to make it easy for them.

First, respond to the invitation as soon as possible. The couple needs numbers for the venue and catering, often months in advance. If you cannot attend, let them know kindly and early. If you do attend, book your flights and hotel quickly, as prices rise and rooms fill up.

Follow the dress code exactly. Destination weddings often have a relaxed or themed dress code, such as beach formal or garden party. If in doubt, ask the couple or the wedding website. Pack for the climate and for any planned events like a welcome dinner or a post-wedding brunch.

On gifts, the usual rule is to send a gift to the couple's home before or after the wedding, rather than bringing it with you. Many couples set up a gift list or a honeymoon fund. If you are unsure, a card with a contribution is always welcome.

Be on time for all events, even if the pace is relaxed. And remember, you are a guest, not a helper. Unless you are in the bridal party, let the couple's team handle the details. Enjoy the holiday and celebrate with them.