What are registry office wedding vows?

Short answer

Register office wedding vows are the legal words you say to each other during a civil ceremony. They are simple, non-religious promises required by law. You can also add your own personal readings or poems, as long as the registrar agrees.

In a register office wedding, the vows are the legally binding promises you make to each other. In England and Wales, the registrar will guide you through the required words, which must not contain religious content. You can choose from a set of approved wording, or you may write your own, but the registrar must approve it first. The core legal declaration usually involves stating that you take the other person as your lawful spouse. You can then add personal vows, readings, poems or songs, as long as they are non-religious and the registrar agrees. In Scotland, the wording can be more flexible, and you can work with your registrar or celebrant to create something personal. In Northern Ireland, the legal requirements are similar, and you should check with the registrar for the exact wording. Remember, the legal vows are the essential part, but you can make the ceremony feel personal around them. If you want religious vows, you would need a religious ceremony in a registered building instead. For the exact wording, ask your register office when you give notice. They will provide the standard options, and you can discuss any changes you have in mind.