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Orthodox weddings follow traditional religious law with separate seating and a mechitzah, while Reform and Liberal weddings are more egalitarian, allowing mixed seating and women to lead parts of the ceremony. The exact rules depend on the synagogue and rabbi.
In Orthodox weddings, men and women sit separately during the ceremony, often divided by a mechitzah. The bride may be circled by the groom, and the ceremony follows traditional religious law closely. Women usually do not lead prayers or read from the Torah. The ketubah is signed by male witnesses, and the ceremony includes specific blessings in Hebrew.
Reform and Liberal weddings tend to be more egalitarian. Men and women sit together, and women can lead prayers, read from the Torah, and act as witnesses. The couple may choose to write their own vows, and the ceremony often includes more English. Some Reform and Liberal synagogues allow same-sex marriages, while Orthodox ones do not.
The chuppah and ketubah are common to all three, but the style and wording may differ. Music, dancing and the length of the ceremony also vary. Because each synagogue and rabbi sets its own rules, check with your place of worship early. If you are unsure about what to expect, ask your rabbi to explain the traditions your congregation follows.
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